译言网 | 淡定者自从容，成功是种境界

作者：Remez Sasson

We are often told that success requires motivation, desire and ambition, but there is another important ingredient, and this is inner detachment.

       常言道成功必备三者：动力，欲望与雄心，但仍有不可或缺之一，非淡定心境莫属。

I hear you now saying, "What has inner detachment to do with success? Isn't detachment a state of indifference? How can one attain success with such a state of mind?"

     兴许你会心疑顿生：“淡定与成功何干？出世之人，如何横刀立马打天下？”

These are erroneous assumptions! Inner detachment is not indifference! I am not speaking here about asceticism or abstinence. One can lead a normal, ordinary life, and yet display inner emotional and mental detachment.

       此乃大大之曲解！内心超然并非漠然尘网！淡定亦非陶公采菊东篱下悠然见南山之专属。我等羁鸟池鱼也可于樊笼中寻得精神的从容超脱。

I want to make it clear. True emotional and mental detachment is not a state of indifference, apathy or lack of energy. One can be loving, happy, helpful and energetic, and yet possess and display inner detachment.

        再次澄清，真正的情感与精神的淡定并非中立派，或是不问世事缺乏气度。既可情仇爱恨又可从容无我才是正道。

True inner detachment manifests as the ability to think clearly and to be immune to what people think or say about you. It enables you to have more control over your moods and states of mind, and therefore enjoy inner balance, harmony and peace. It also helps you handle more efficiently your daily affairs of life, as well difficult situations or emergencies.

       真正的淡定者能时刻自我掌舵并大喊“开自己的船让别人吹风去吧”。淡定者能把握自身心绪调整心态起伏，从而尽享平衡和谐与谧静如水。淡定者也自能披荆斩棘，安渡难关。

This is a state that comes from inner strength and inner peace, and not from apathy and indifference. It coexists with self-control, self-discipline and a focused mind. It brings inner calmness and tranquility that external circumstances cannot disturb or upset.

       从容来自内心深处的力量和平和，而不是冷漠和中立，总是伴随着自控自律与精力集中，随之产生的恬静安宁是不为外物所动的。

You will surely agree that all the above-mentioned qualities and abilities are important for the attainment of success!

       你现在定会明晓以上素质与能力对于成功是何等重要了。

Not everything always turns out as planned or expected. Plans sometimes do not work out, people don't behave as expected and unforeseen obstacles might stand in the way. All this can dampen one's spirit and weaken the motivation, ambition and faith, but a state of emotional and mental detachment will prevent all that. A person possessing detachment will not be affected or daunted by obstacles or failures and will try again and again.

       世事无常，人总为外物所累，计划赶不上变化，前方的路不知道那块石头就那么硌脚。这些无一不消沉心智，打击雄图，动摇壮志，唯有内心的从容淡定才能让你我不闻猿声，轻舟自过万重山。只有此种心态者方能完成从百战百败到百败百战的升华。

While others become immersed in self-pity or in thoughts about failure and missed opportunities, the person who possesses detachment will be working on a new venture or trying a different approach. A state of inner detachment helps to forget failure and focus on the future and on success.

       当自怜者纠结于错失良机的懊丧时，淡定者早已去其褴褛，再借东风，扬帆起航。内心超脱会把眼光聚于明日的骄阳而非昨夜的伤逝。

Lack of detachment is attachment, which means, among other things, clinging to old or outdated behavior and ways of thinking. Attachment manifests as fear to make changes, to progress or try doing things in a different way.

       放不下就代表有牵挂，牵挂于惯性的安逸，放不下旧日荣光。留恋与惧怕推陈重新永远孪生。

Lack of attachment is detachment, which equals to inner freedom and the ability to make and accept changes, take advantage of opportunities and adopt new habits.

      放下了就从容了，从容于纷事乱扰，不受羁绊放飞自我，迎接新我，机遇与挑战并存。

Detachment goes with the ability to weigh the pros and cons of situations, circumstances and actions in an impartial way, and to make rational decisions, which are not based on moods. It helps to keep a clear and focused mind, and to recognize opportunities that others might not see.

       淡定中自有权衡利弊，审时度势与真知灼见，从而心静目明，独具慧眼，不失良机。

Now you might be wondering whether it is possible at all to acquire this ability. Yes, it is possible, but this requires training and inner work. You will find below a few suggestions to help you start. Don't underestimate these suggestions. Follow them, and you will gain inner detachment, inner strength and inner peace.

       你或许想知道这种道行是否常人可以修得。佛曰:放下屠刀，立地成佛。只要肯不畏苦难，潜心修炼，心法自可了然心中。下面当然要贴出秘籍数条，怀揣虔诚的心，你也可以达到出山的境界：

1. Pay more attention to your thoughts, feelings and state of mind. A heightened awareness of your thoughts and feelings shows you where you need to develop and progress.

1.专注于你的思想，感觉和心态，更敏感的自省能让你顿悟自己的不足。

2. Remind yourself every now and then how important it is to be calm, relaxed and in control of yourself, your mind and moods, especially when you feel agitated or unfocused.

2. 时刻提醒自己心如止水自我掌控的至关重要，切忌骄躁浮夸。

3. When you desire to say or do something that is not really important, wait a few seconds before talking or acting.

3.当忍不住要打破沉默或采取非必要措施前，先留下思忖空间。

4. When aware of anger arising in you, delay your reaction for a few seconds.

4.怒火攻心，忍一忍或许海阔天空。

5. Learn not to take everything said or done too personally.

5.学会抹去言行中的个人色彩。

6. Here is another thing you can do. It is very simple, but in most cases real hard. Try sometimes, not always, to switch off your TV in the middle of your favorite program. Though a very simple act, it requires real inner strength. If you can do so once in a while, you will be able to manifest more and more emotional and mental detachment, which will help you on your road to success and achieving your goals and ambitions.

6.总有第二种选择。说的简单做到难。开始尝试，不要强迫，整天生猛海鲜偶尔也得接受豆腐白菜。一举一止，并非一日之功。淡定从容，一旦拥有，夫复何求，成功之境界，自等有心人。