how to succeed with women-05

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Interruption/Initiation, Part 2: The "Hi" Program
Yesterday you learned why it's important to interrupt women. Today you start learning how, with the "hi" program.
There is a myth that opening lines work. They don't. Here are some that don't work, for your amusement:
Examples of Stupid Pickup Lines
"Let's do breakfast tomorrow. Should I call you or nudge you?"
"Hi, my name's (your name). Remember it, you'll be screaming it later tonight!"
"Hey baby are you wearing your space underwear tonight? Because your ass is out of this world!"
"Hey sexy. How would you like to join me in doing some math? Let's add you and me, subtract our clothes, divide your legs, and then multiply."
"If I could rewrite the alphabet, I would put U and I together."
"There must be something wrong with my eyes, I can't take them off you."
"Excuse me, do you have a quarter I can borrow? I told my mother that I would call her when I fell in love with the girl of my dreams!"
"Congratulations! You've been voted 'Most Beautiful Girl In This Room' and the grand prize is a night with me!"
"Is your dad a baker? Because you sure have got great buns."
In fact, there has been research that shows that hi is the most effective way to introduce yourself to women.
In fact, a Study at the University of Chicago showed that "hi" is the most effective way to start a conversation with a woman. Look at it this way: whether or not you use a cutsie opening line, you are still left with the same problem: there's a woman in front of you, and you need to know how to converse with her, and have her think of you as possible romantic material. We'll cover this in upcoming lessons; for now, you must master that first step of saying "hi."
The "Hi" program is very simple:
You simply say "hi" to a certain number of women each day. This gets you into the habit of initiating with women, and is an important first step to being comfortable and easy with starting conversations with women on a regular basis. Decide how many you are going to say hi to, and keep track (remember fundamental number 1, "structures"? Keeping track of what you are doing gives it a structure and helps keep the project alive).
The Rules of the "Hi Program"
The women you say "hi" to don't have to hear you say hi. They can be walking the other direction, and even wearing headphones. They can be old, fat, disabled, it doesn't matter--this is about building your muscle that can interrupt women, initiate everything, and redirect women's attention, no matter how briefly, to you. Celebrate that you did it. If you are shy, you might want to practice saying "hi" out loud. Carry the tracking form or an index card and keep track of how many women you say "hi" to.
How you can screw up the "Hi Program"
You can screw up the "Hi Program" by not saying "hi" to some women because they are not pretty enough, while at the same time not saying "hi" to the rest because they are too pretty. Your job is to say "hi" to something female and human. That's all. You can screw up the "Hi Program" by feeling upset because women do not initiate with you. You can screw up the "Hi Program" by only saying hi to women who make eye contact with you. This is waiting for women to initiate first. You can screw up the "Hi Program" by waiting for the "perfect moment," which will never come. As you'll learn as you keep initiating with women, "perfect moments" are more often made than they are found. You can screw up the "Hi Program" by deciding that the "Hi Program" is so simple, you don't need to do it.
Your job is to just open your mouth, say "hi," and don't worry.
Other topics covered in day five of the audio program:
Deciding how many women you are going to say "hi" to. Tracking your interactions with women. Continuing to see opportunities. How to get started right now. Dealing with your fears: How do you avoid interrupting women? What fears do you have about interrupting women and getting their attention? What does your fear and paranoia tell you that the worst thing that can happen is?