【心理分析】一句话揭穿男人的谎言！是男人就过来看一下！

在我开始陈述之前，我想先把事情弄得尽量明了一些。尽管我是一个女人，我想我对男人的那点心思还是了如指掌的。我从小是在男孩堆里长大的，但是，那些对我来说是再自然不过了。我只是想尽量让女性们知道，尽管男人对女人撒谎是不尽正确的，但是我们也应该理解男人之所以撒谎也是有其内在原因的。一旦你理解了这一切，你也就不会对偶尔的谎言心存芥蒂了。这篇文章也希望能够探究男人为什么要对自己的女朋友撒谎。

Why Do Men Lie to Women : Lie No. 1

男人究竟为何要对女人撒谎：排行第一的谎言

Question: What are you thinking?

问题：你在想什么呢？

Answer: Nothing.

回答：什么也没有想啊！

Question: Seriously, what are you thinking?

问题：你到底在想什么呢？

LIE: Hmmm, I am thinking about you!!

谎言：嗯，其实，我在想你呢！

This is a very common lie that men say to women. Recent survey has proved it that there are in fact times when men think about nothing. It is because such a phenomenon does not occur for women, that when a man actually says "nothing" we don't believe him. That is why they make something up, it will be more believable right?

这是我们日常生活中经常能够听到男人对女人的谎言。最近的研究调查已经证实了很多时候男人实际上是真的什么也没有想。因为女人不会有这样的现象存在，也就是当男人说他什么也没有想的时候，我们女性根本就不会相信他说的这句话。这也就是他为什么会尽量去弥补，这会让他看起来更值得相信。

Even if the man is thinking something, and says "nothing", my suggestion to all women is to drop it for the moment. Men have a tendency to keep things only in their mind until it is a little bit sorted. So, if you keep patience in the start and show them support, by just giving them a sweet smile and saying, "Okay", they might come and discuss it with you, honestly, when they are ready

即使男人真的在考虑着什么事，但是回答“什么也没想”，在这个时候，我对姐妹们的意见就是让他顺其自然的去想吧。男人倾向于把想法存在自己的脑子里，直到那些想法在自己的脑海一点点消失殆尽。因此，如果你一开始就表现出极大的耐心，并且对他的行为表示理解，然后对他报以一丝甜甜的微笑，随口加上一句“好吧，随你咯。”或许，诚实的讲，他们做好准备了就会来到你的身边对你敞开心扉。

Why Do Men Lie to Women : Lie No. 2

男人究竟为何要对女人撒谎：排行第二大谎言。

Question (on the phone): What are you doing?

问题（电话里）：你在干嘛呢？

Answer: Ummm, nothing just hanging out with friends.

回答：恩，啥也没干，和一帮朋友瞎逛呢。

Now, in case he is lying in this case, there is barely any way to know that unless you are spying on him. Either ways, if you really want him to tell you exactly where he is and what he is doing, you are probably asking too much from him. Let's face it, men are the protectors, they are built to be protective and not the most accountable. More so, dealing with a relationship, more specifically, dealing with women, is quite stressing for most men. Hence, if they just want to let loose and do "nothing" with their friends, let them. If you give him space when he needs it, he may even start opening up to you.

现在，即使他在撒谎，我们也无从得知事情的真相，除非你对他进行跟踪。另外，如果你真的想让他告诉你他现在身居何处，为何忙碌，你可能就会去追问更多的问题。让我们首先面对这样一个问题，男人是自我保护的动物，他们会为自己营造一个巢穴来躲避自己。更甚，在处理人际关系时，或者更具体一点，处理同女人的关系时，大多数男人会对此感到有压力。因此，如果他们仅仅是想要放松一下自己，和朋友在一起“无所事事”，就让他去吧！如果你留给他足够多的私人空间，或许他会主动的投入你的怀抱。

Why Do Men Lie to Women : Lie No. 3

男人究竟为何要对女人撒谎：排行第三大谎言。

Lie: I'll call you!

谎言：一会给你回电话啊！

Now, this one is not always a lie. However, if they don't call you back for 3 days, it is possible that he is playing the 3 day charm on you, to get you longing for his call. In case he doesn't call you for more than 4 or 5 days, he is probably just not that into you. Now, you would ask, "then why did he have to say that he will call me?". Well, the answer to that is that most men are accustomed to end the conversation in that manner. More so, he probably didn't want to hurt your feelings or seem rude. Hence, he said the most "safe" line in the guy's vocabulary. So, lighten up. If you still like him enough, take the initiative and call him. You are a strong, independent women!

如今，这个是我们不会经常碰到的谎言。然而，如果你等了三天还没有等到他的电话，唯一的可行解释就是他在故意掉你的胃口，让你更加着急去等候他不期而至的电话。假如，在接下来的4到5天里你依旧没有等到他的电话，情况可就不乐观了，可能他的心里根本就没有你。或许，你现在要开始问了，“既然这样，那他为什么还要对我说他要给我电话呢？”。嗯，那我只能这样来回答你的问题了，那就是大多数男人比较习惯用这样的方式来结束谈话。或者说，他或许不想去伤害你的感情，亦或不愿去选择一种粗鲁的方式。因此，他选择了大多数男同胞都会使用的"最安全”的策略。那么，你就不要再担忧什么了。如果你确定你还是喜欢他的话，放下自己的架子，主动去给他打个电话。要知道你是一个独立自强的女人！

Why Do Men Lie to Women?

男人究竟为何要对女人撒谎？

The basic question is still unanswered. Men lie to women for a few specific reasons. Let's understand them.

对这个最基本的问题依旧悬而未决。男人对女人撒谎是有一定原因的。让我们来看看究竟是什么吧！

To get away with stuff: This is the reason why most women lie as well, right? It is often just easier to give a very simple and easy answer, as compared to saying the truth. Often, in saying the truth, confrontation is a given. As such, lying seems like a safer option.

让我们先来看一下：这或许也是大多数女人撒谎的原因吧！与讲出事实相比，给出一个简洁明了的答案似乎来得更容易些。在讲出事实的时候，我们已经给自己预设了之后的场景。因此看来，说谎似乎是一个更加安全的选择。

Fiction is more believable: This is very common as well. Women have a tendency to refuse to believe something that is just too "easy" to be true. Poor men, where do they go at such a time. If they say the truth, they will be constantly questioned. So, they make up a more complex lie, and the women tend to fall for it!

小说更具有可信性：这也是一个很常见的现象。对于那些看起来太简单而不像是事实的情形，女人通常倾向于拒绝去相信。可怜的男人啊，在这种情况下你该何去何从啊！即使他们讲出了实情，他们依旧会遭到盘诘。因此，他们不得不编织一个更加复杂的谎言，女人对这个谎言却深信不移。

For kicks: Yes, many men can afford to saying the truth. Like, "We got bored working, so we went to the bar after office hours, hence I got late!". But no, men being boys, end up having no fun in saying that. Many men in such a situation, would enjoy making up and elaborate and detailed lies for their special someones. After all, all they pent up creativity has to be expressed somewhere, right?

注脚：是的，很多男人都会去讲出实情的。例如“我们对工作厌倦了，因此在下班后我们就结伙来到了酒吧，这就是我回家迟到的原因了”。但是，情况往往不是这样的！男人是不会丧失其孩童的本性的，他不会就这样把实情平平淡淡的讲出来的。很多男人在面对这样情况的时候，他们会对某一个特定的对象蓄意编造一个细节详尽的谎言。毕竟，男人蓄积的创造性是需要通过某种途径表现出来的，你说对吗？

Half Truth: Often the man is not exactly lying, but he is not completely honest either. He will say the acceptable part of the truth and very conveniently "forget" about the unacceptable part of it. Like he may say that he took a friend out for shopping, but he may just omit the part where his "friend" is actually his ex-girlfriend. Let's face it, if you are his girlfriend or wife, you would at least frown at the concept. So, to keep you happy, he would simply not mention.

半半真理：有时候，男人不是在真正的说谎，但是，他也不是真正的在实话实说。他会刻意的讲出关于事实的可以让人接受的那一部分，而对于不能让人接受的另一半，他会蓄意的避而不谈。例如他会说，我和一个朋友逛街去了。但是至于是他的哪一个朋友，他就略去了，实际上是他的前女友！让我们面对这一个问题：如果你是他的女朋友亦或妻子，你在这样的情况下至少要皱一下眉头。因此，如果他想哄你开心，他就不会再谈下去了。

To avoid work: These are the lies that men say to get away from chores or other errands. Like, if you need to have him pick up the laundry on the way back from office, he might "suddenly" have a very important meeting spring up. Or if he forgot to do it, he would make up a story saying that he remembered, but thought you would have already done it, instead. Silly, I know, but that is the way a man's mind works, at times.

逃避工作：下面要谈的是男人如何摆脱家务或者逃离差事时的谎言。例如，你如果要他在下班回家的途中去洗衣店取回洗完的衣服，这时候他会突然告诉你他临时有一个非常重要的会议。如果他忘记取衣服回家，他就会编织这样一个故事：不是我不记得了，只是我觉得你已经把它取回家了。我知道这很愚蠢，可是事实上，这就是男人的想法。

To make you feel better: Now, if you have cooked the worst meal ever, you would not want him to tell you that in the face right? More so, men have been trained to tell the woman the the food is good, come what may, if they care about her. So, in such a case his lie to you would be something like "The food was amazing". I wouldn't mind this lie, would you?

让你感觉更舒心：现在，如果你做的饭菜是有史以来最糟的一次，你不会希望他当面讲出实情来，对吧？或者说，男人早就被训练过了该如何告诉女人饭菜是多么的可口。如果他很在意她的感受，会这样做的。所以，在这个时候他的谎言就有点像“这食物好的真的是太出乎我的意料了！”反正我是不会介意这样的谎言的，你呢？

To hide the truth: These are the lies that you need to be wary of. Yes, all the lies that men say are not white lies. Some are the ones that they say to hide something from you.

隐藏真相：这些谎言你可真的要提防一下了。是的，男人所说的所有的谎言并非都是善意的谎言。有一些谎言他是为了故意向你隐瞒些什么。

Don't you think that these aren't that bad, after all? I mean, it's high time we open our minds a little bit to the male psyche and see the honesty in all the lies.

难道你不认为这些谎言还不是最糟的吗？我意思是说，现在是时候轮到我们去探索一下男人的内心世界了，洞察一下谎言背后的真相。

Why Do Men Lie about Stupid Things?

对一些弱智的问题男人为何要撒谎呢？

Yes, men lie about the silliest things. But, they do it because they are simply scared of your reaction. Yes, we women tend to get all interrogative if something seems a little bit dicey. What do you do to avoid that? Well, you need to build trust in the relationship. Let him, know that there is nothing that he can do that will make you hate him, if he tells you about it honestly. Preach by practice. Tell him everything, even things he may not like. Tell him that you love him and that you trust him with your honesty. It works, when done genuinely.

是的，男人也会对愚蠢至极的问题去撒谎。但是，他们之所以这样做仅仅是因为他们害怕你为之做出的反应。是的，我承认我们女人倾向于刨根问底，打破沙锅问到底。那么你该如何去回避这个问题呢？恩，你应该树立双方之间的彼此信任。你要让他知道如果他能对你诚实的讲出实情，他所做的一切都不会让你对他心生厌恶。用实践来证明。告诉他所有的一切，即使是他所不喜欢的。告诉他你是多么的爱他，你对他是多么的信任。如果你付出了你的真诚，那么你就一定会见到效果！

Why Do Men Lie and Cheat?

男人为何要撒谎和欺骗？

Cheating and lying can be a bad combination. Why do men cheat on women? For several reasons. All you have to remember, is that it is not always the man's fault. If you keep a constant distance from him, or if you never trust him, then you are driving him into indiscretion. So, if his behavior makes you suspicious, it is best if you sit down and sort it out with him. Either ways, cheating, in my opinion, is unacceptable, the rest is your decision!

欺骗和撒谎可不是一对好搭档！可是男人究竟为何要欺骗女人？可能有如下几个原因。但是你必须要记住的一点就是，那不完全是男人的过错。如果你一直对他保持疏远，或者你从来不曾相信过他，那么就是你把他推向了这个深渊。因此，如果他的举动让你心生疑虑，最好的办法就是你能够平心静气的坐下来和他好好谈一下。在我看来，欺骗是不能够容忍的，两种方式，自己选择！

However, many men simply cheat and lie because they can. In such a case, the ball is in your court. You can forgive him and carry on with your life, or you could not forgive him and get revenge, or you could end the relationship and move on with life. Either ways, the best way to know why a person does what he does is by asking him outright. Do not jump to conclusions and judgments, it will more often than not, turn out to be wrong.

然而，很多男人还是会选择欺骗和谎言。在这样的情况下，你掌握发言权。你可以原谅他，继续你们的生活，或者你不会原谅他然后以牙还牙，再者就是结束你和他的关系然后继续你自己的生活。当然，如果想知道为什么他会这样做或者他究竟做了什么，最好的方式就是直接向他发问。不要仅仅依据推测就妄下断言，得出结论，通常情况下，你只能让事情变得更糟。

Women are blessed with intuition and a whole load of intellect. Use what your "momma gave ya" and have fun with some of the lies that the men say!!

女人被施慧于直觉，为之献出了聪慧。享受你“妈妈所赋予的。”用心去享受男人某些时候为你编织的谎言吧！