如何接吻

来源how to kiss
译者燕燕逐波千万里

From the kiss of respect to platonic kiss to a passionate kiss like you see in the movies, bringing your lips in contact with someone else's is a sign of affection that most people enjoy. But since there are many kinds of kisses to reflect the many levels of affection you can have for someone, it can be nerve-wracking! Don't worry, though--this article will go over several kinds of kisses, as well as when, and how, to give them.

Here are some steps:

1. Get your lips in proper kissing order. The most kissable lips are smooth and sweet, not dry, chapped and tense. The guidelines in How to Get Kissable Lips will help both men and women make their lips look more attractive and inviting. Here are the basics:

# Exfoliate your lips with sugar to make them soft. You never want your lips hard.
# Moisturize your lips to keep them soft.
# Relax your lips by parting them ever so slightly.

2. Look inviting and approachable. You might not realize it when you send a "leave me alone" message, so read up on How to Look Approachable. Uncross your arms, keep your hands away from your face, make eye contact, and smile! Similarly, read his or her body language - is this person into you? Or does this person seem uncomfortable?

3. Break the "touch barrier." Touch the person lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking. Just make it a quick, innocent touch and don't make a big deal out of it. Holding hands is also a good way to break the touch barrier. (Guys, you may want to read How to Touch a Girl for more ideas on how to break the touch barrier without overstepping boundaries.) If everything is going well, try kissing the person on the cheek. If you find your lips near their ear (like if you're hugging someone from behind, or whispering something to them) go in for a gentle kiss on the cheek and see how they respond.

* Please note that the touch barrier is culture dependent. In certain cultures, e.g. Islamic, breaking the touch barrier is a big taboo that can land you in serious trouble. Be very careful.

4. Look at their lips. Make eye contact and then move your gaze briefly down to the person's lips. Then move your eyes back up to meet theirs and smile demurely. You don't have to be really obvious about it. Many people will take the hint, especially if they've read one of the many articles that lists this as a sign that a person wants to kiss or be kissed.

5. Approach for the kiss. Depending on your starting position you may need only to turn your head, or you may need to lean in a bit. You may want to use your hands to gently urge your partner’s body or head into position—you just want to guide his or her movement a little, you don’t want to forcibly move any part of his or her body or hold your partner in an uncomfortable position—but in general you just want to position yourself correctly and let your partner meet you. As you near your partner’s lips, maintain eye contact.

从尊重之吻到理想之吻再到热情之吻，这些吻就像你从电影中看到的，你的嘴唇与别人的嘴唇触碰在一起，这是情感的象征，大多数人都很享受。但是不同的吻折射出你对他人不同程度的喜爱之情，这是非常让人伤脑筋的！别当心，然而这篇文章就是解释一下几种吻，什么时候，怎样去献出它们。

下面有一些步骤：

1.       正确的亲吻次序。最诱人的嘴唇都是柔滑香甜的，不是干燥，裂开，紧张的。如何让你的嘴唇诱人的指导能帮助男人和女人让他们的嘴唇看起来更加的有魅力，更加的诱人。下面就是一些基本知识：

用白糖涂在你的嘴唇上，去掉你唇上的死皮，这样能让嘴唇看起来柔软。你绝不想让你的嘴唇看起来很粗糙吧。

滋润你的嘴唇，让它看起来水润水润的。

放松你的唇部，让它们轻轻地分开。

2.       看起来要亲切。当你发出“别理我”的信号的时候，你可能都没有意识到，所以要仔细研修如何让你的看起来很有亲和力。不要交叉环抱你的双手，不要用你的手摸你的脸，让眼神交汇，微笑！同样的，读懂他或她的肢体语言——这个人对你有意思吗？或者这个人看起来很不安？

3.       打破“接触障碍”。当你们在谈论时，轻轻地触碰他人的手臂或者肩膀。一定要迅速，看起来是无意间的触碰，不要小题大做。牵手是打破接触障碍的一个很好的方法。（伙计们你可能会很想读到关于在如何打破接触障碍时读懂一个女孩的心思确没有超出限度的文字。）如果一切发展顺利，那么试着去吻她的脸颊。如果你的嘴唇靠近他们的耳朵（比如你从背后抱住一个人，或者和他们低声耳语），那么温柔地吻着脸颊，看他们是如何反应的。

请注意接触障碍是依附于文化的。在某些文化中，比如伊斯兰教，打破接触障碍是一个很大的禁忌这会让你陷入严重的麻烦之中，一定要小心！

4.       注意他们的嘴唇。让眼神交流然后把你的注意力转移到别人的嘴唇上来。然后再次和他们眼神交汇，正经地笑着。没有必要太过于明显。很多人会知道这个暗示，特别是如果他们读过类似的文章，这是一个人想接吻或被吻的信号。

5.       接吻的方法。这取决于你最初的姿势，你可能只是需要转一下你的头，或者你需要稍微地倾斜一下。你可能想用你的手温柔地环住你伴侣的身体或者回到正确的位置——你只是想轻微地指引一下他或她的动作，你并不想用力地他或她身体的任何一个部位或者用一个很不舒服的方式抱住你的伴侣——但是一般而言，你要正确调好你的位置，让你的伴侣能看见你。当你的嘴唇靠近她的嘴唇时，一定要眼神交汇。