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原谅他人，不犹豫
When people sin, you should forgive and comfort them, so they won’t give up in despair. 2 Corinthians 2:7 (CEV)
在人们犯错的时候，你因该原谅并安抚他们，如此他们才不会绝望。
"Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not a person asks for it. Trust must be rebuilt over time."不管人们是否恳请你原谅他们，你的谅解都必须是即时的。信任需要随着时间的推移而重新建立起来。
We all need mercy, because we all stumble and fall and require help getting back on track. We need to offer mercy to each other and be willing to receive it from each other. 我们需要谅解他人，因为我们都会犯错，都会跌到，都会在失败后寻求他人的帮助。我们既需要向他人表达自己的谅解之意，也要愿意诚心接受他人的歉意。
You can’t have fellowship without forgiveness because bitterness and resentment always destroy fellowship. Sometimes we hurt each other intentionally and sometimes unintentionally, but either way, it takes massive amounts of mercy and grace to create and maintain fellowship. 你不可能拥有一种不需要宽恕的友谊，因为痛苦和不满总会时不时地破坏友谊。有时，我们对他人的伤害是有意为之的，有时又是毫无意识的——不管是哪种，都需要极大的宽容和仁慈以建立并维持我们的友谊。
The Bible says, “You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others” (Colossians 3:13 NLT).《圣经》言道“对他人的错误，你必须留有余地；对于冒犯你的人，你必须原谅。记住：主已经宽恕了你，所以你必须宽恕其他人。”
The mercy God shows to us is the motivation for us to show mercy to others. Whenever you’re hurt by someone, you have a choice to make: 主给予我们的宽恕是我们原谅他人的动力。无论何时，一旦有人伤害了你，你可以选择：
Will I use my energy and emotions for retaliation or for resolution?我是要把自己的精力和感情用于复仇还是用于谅解？
You can’t do both. 二者你只能择其一而为之。
Many people are reluctant to show mercy because they don’t understand the difference between trust and forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past. Trust has to do with future behavior.许多人都犹犹豫豫地不愿意表达自己的谅解之意，因为他们还不能理解信任与宽恕之间的差异。原谅是放开过去，而信任则与将来的行为有关。
Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not a person asks for it. Trust must be rebuilt over time. 不管人们是否恳请你原谅他们，你的谅解都必须是即时的。信任需要随着时间的推移而重新建立起来。
Trust requires a track record. If someone hurts you repeatedly, you are commanded by God to forgive them instantly, but you are not expected to trust them immediately, and you are not expected to continue allowing them to hurt you. They must prove they have changed over time. 信任需要有一个过程。如果一个人三番四次地伤害你，主会指导你立刻宽恕他，却既不会期望你立刻信任他，更不会期望你允许他们继续伤害你。他们必须证明自己在随着时间的步伐逐步地改变着。
The best place to restore trust is within the supportive context of a small group that offers both encouragement and accountability.有着鼓励、支持精神的环境是重建信任的最佳地方，因为这个地方可以给人们提供鼓励和责任。