女人如何“测试”男人，以及如何应对

（尝试翻译 David DeAngelo 的文章。有的地方还是不会翻译。）


你有没有碰到过当你打电话约她时，她说：”星期五晚上？行啊，要不你星期五再打电话给我……“？

你有没有碰到过被她直接问你对她”是不是认真的“？

你有没有碰到过她拿一些莫名其妙的事情来”摆弄“你？

你有没有碰到过她在约会前五分钟打电话说不来了？

你有没有碰到过她因为一点不顺心而噘着一幅大便脸（劝都劝不转）？

你有没有碰到过当你问她的电话号码时她说：”还是把你的电话号码给我，我来打给你“？

注意到没，她在”测试“你。以上这些就是女人”测试“男人的通常方式。从某种意义上说，她的测试是为了确认自己在两人关系中拥有多少主动权，同时也是看，你有多少主动权。

这种测试的”荒谬“之处在于，如果你满足了她看起来所期望的，那你就失败了。嘿，女人就是这么不讲道理。

我正在读一本很棒的书叫《成为一个出众的男人》。作者在书中说，女人总是直接向男人问这问那……而当男人满足了她的要求时，她却会感到失望，向男人发火。

你碰到过吗？

这样的”测试“到底是怎么回事呢？



女人”测试“男人是因为她们想马上看清这个男人的面目，她们可不指望男人会将自己的弱点老老实实的展露出来。

I mean, let's face it... we guys like to talk a big game, but when it comes to walking the talk, we often can't BACK IT UP.

还有，漂亮的女人总是会有很多选择。她们必须做出选择。漂亮的女人总是喜欢”强“的男人。并非是身体上的强壮（尽管那会是一种优势），而是人格和身份上的”强势“。

女人不喜欢小屁孩。

想想看……如果你是一位动人女子，有100个男人围着你，你怎么才能指出哪几个有资格做你的真命天子，而哪几个是外强中干？

没错，你必须”测试“他们。

但你绝不会说：”来，准备好了，我要测测你们。“

绝对不会！

你会暗中做测试，弄清这个男人真正的长处和弱点。这些测试都不会让他知道你正在测试他，同时也不会让他感觉出你的测试结论。这样，如果他表现得像个小屁孩，你就可以赶紧从他身边溜开。

这也能让你获得主动权。

如果你经常这么做，慢慢的就会习惯成自然，最后这些测试就会成为一种下意识的，在不经意间流露出的行为，贯穿于你和男人们的交流当中。

清楚了没？这就是美女们的生活。她们自然而然的测试我们！而你一旦失败一次，就很难有下次机会了。

在这个快节奏的社会，人们不会有几个月或者几年时间来弄清他/她是否合适自己。我们需要马上弄清楚。测试便是女人的”快捷方式“。她们用这种方式来判断你是一个能掌握局面的人还是一个小屁孩。

希望你能理解我所说的。

所以如果下次你站在一位美女面前向她要电话号码，而她说：“干嘛不把你的电话给我，我来打给你？”你不妨笑笑，说：

“得了，别来这套。我可不是那种每天只想着打电话的人。把你的号码写给我，我保证每天只打20个电话给你。”

然后把笔给她，指着那张白纸，满怀希望的看着她。

太棒了。






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How Women "Test" Men - How To Pass

Have you ever called a woman on the phone to
set up a date and she says: "Friday night? Sure.
Call me on Friday and we can talk about it..."?

Or, have you ever had a woman ask you if you're
"a player"?

Or, have you ever had a woman challenge you
about something ridiculous?

Or, have you ever had a woman call you five
minutes before a date and cancel?

Or, have you ever had a woman pout and get
upset because she didn't get her way?

Or, have you ever asked a woman for her number
and she says, "Why don't you give me your number
and I'll call YOU"?

Well guess what... you were being TESTED.

All of these are examples of common things
women do to "test" men.

On some level, the woman you were dealing with
was testing to see how much control she had in the
relationship... and how STRONG you were.

The paradox of "testing" is that if you COMPLY
with what a woman SEEMS to want, you will usually
FAIL the test.

Hey, I never said that women made sense... lol.

I was reading a great book recently called "The
Way Of The Superior Man", and inside the author
points out that a woman will often ask a man for
something DIRECTLY... but if he DOES what she
asks, she will be disappointed and ANGRY with him.

Ever been there?

So what's with this testing stuff, anyway?

Well, the answer is fascinating.

And before I tell you about why women TEST you,
I want to mention that there's a LOT more going on
"behind the scenes" when it comes to female
psychology and behavior. I believe that if you can
learn how to understand this "mating psychology",
then you can learn to attract women MUCH faster...

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Back to the answer...

Women test men because they need to QUICKLY
figure out what they're dealing with, and they
can't expect a man to just be straight up and
honest about his strengths and weaknesses.

I mean, let's face it... we guys like to talk a
big game, but when it comes to walking the talk,
we often can't BACK IT UP.

Also, beautiful women have a lot of options.
They have their pick of men. And beautiful women
prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although
this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER
and PERSONAL IDENTITY.

Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.

So let me ask you... if you were an attractive
woman that was being chased around by 100 guys,
how would YOU go about figuring out which one or
ones were the "real deal" and which were merely
FAKING strength and confidence?

Of course... you'd have to TEST them.

But you couldn't test by saying, "OK, I'm going
to give you a test now, so get ready".

No no NO!

You'd have to use "blind" tests. Tests that
would allow you to see a man's true strengths and
weaknesses. And in fact, you'd want to use tests
that ideally DIDN'T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU
WERE TESTING... OR WHAT YOU HAD DISCOVERED ABOUT
HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out
to be a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and
easily.

This would give you the power...

Of course.

And if you did this OFTEN, you'd eventually
become so accustomed to doing it, that MANY of the
tests would become SUBCONSCIOUS and work their way
into your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating
with men.

Well guess what?

That's what is going on with beautiful women.

Many of the tests that they use with men are
actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us
automatically!

And if you fail one of these tests, there's a
good chance that you won't get another chance.

In this fast-paced world, we humans don't have
the time to spend getting to know people over a
few months or years to figure out whether or not
they're the kind of person that would make a good
friend or mate.

We need to know NOW.

So we use shortcuts.

Testing is a shortcut for women.

It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you
have BALLS, or if you're just another one of the
bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her
attention.

I hope you feel what I'm saying.

So, the next time you're standing in front of a
beautiful woman who you've just asked for her
number and she says, "Why don't you just give me
yours and I'll call YOU..." try CHUCKLING out
loud, and saying:

"Oh, cummon. Don't give me that old line. Write
your number down and I'll only call you 25 times a
day until you wind up having to change it because
I have nothing better to do with my time than call
someone who doesn't want to hear from me."

Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and
look her in the eye expectantly.

Love it.