可以不再计较的东西

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                                                                             人生在世,如果计较的东西太多,
                                                                                       名利地位,金钱美色。
                                                               样样都不肯放手,那就会如牛重负,活得很累;
                                                                                      反之,什么都不计较,
                                                                         什么都马马虎虎,什么都可以凑合,
                                                                     那也未免太对不起自己,活得没啥意思。
                                                                               聪明的人,有生活智慧的人,
                                                                    会有所不为,只计较对自己最重要的东西,
                                                                             并且知道什么年龄该计较什么,
                                                                        不该计较什么,有取有舍,收放自如。
                        
                                                                                                    十岁时,
                                                                              应该不再计较家里给的零花钱多少,
                                                                              不和别人家的孩子比较穿名牌服装,
                                                                           少不更事,和人家比吃穿,还情有可原,
                                                       年纪到了整数就该懂事了,前有孔融,后又洪战辉,都是楷模。
                        
                                                                                             二十岁时,
                                                          该不再计较自己的家庭出身,不再计较父母的职业,
                                                     十几岁是,会和别的孩子比较家庭出身,比爹娘官大官小,
                                                          恨不得都投生帝王之家,将相之门,也是人之常情,
                                                                   但如果到了‘弱冠’之年,还弱不禁风,
                                                                                        尚无自立之志,
                                                             出身贫贱的还为家庭自卑,老觉得抬不起头来。
                                   出身富豪的还处处依靠父母,在家庭荫护下养尊处优,那就会一辈子都没出息。
                          
                                                                                               三十岁时,
                                                                                  已成家立业,为父为母。
                                                                                有了几年家庭生活的经验。
                                                       大丈夫该不再计较妻子的容貌,深知贤惠比美貌更重要。
                                                                  会过日子媳妇比会打扮的媳妇更让人待见;
                                                        老婆该不再计较老公的身高,明白能力比身高更有作用,
                                                没有谋生能力的老公,纵然长成丈二金刚,还不如卖炊饼的武大郎。
                        
                                                                                            四十岁时,
                                                                  该不再计较别人的议论,谁爱说啥就说啥,
                                                                                      自己想咋过就咋过。
                                                                  人言可畏,吓吓上世纪30年代的阮玲玉还成。
                                                                      如今的明星,一星期听不到他的绯闻轶事,
                                                                       没人对他议论纷纷,他就急得火烧火燎的。
                                                                                咱们虽然没有明星那高深道行,
                                                                 但不会再轻易被别人议论左右,这点本事应该有的,
                                                                                 否则也对不起‘不惑’这两字啊。
                            
                                                                                                五十岁时,
                                                                             该不再计较无处不在的不平之事,
                                                                             不再计较别人的成功对自己的压力,
                                                                      不再眼红他人的财富,不再当仇富的‘愤青’。
                                                                              半百之年,曾经沧海,阅人无数,
                                                                                见惯秋月春风,不再大惊小怪,
                                                                                 历尽是非成败,不再愤愤不平。
                                                                                 看新贵飞扬跋扈,可不动声色。
                                                                         看大款挥金如土,也气定神闲,耐住性子。
                        
                                                                                                 六十岁时,
                                                                            如果从政,该不再计较官大官小,
                                                                    退了休,官大官小一个样。都是退休干部;
                                                                如果经商,该不再计较利大利小,钱是挣不完的。  
                                                                                         再能花也是有限的。
                                                                                心态平和对自己身体有好处;
                                                            如果舞文弄墨,当不再计较文名大小,文坛座次。
                                                                                毕竟‘文无第一,武无第二’;
                                                                只要心情愉悦,有感而发,我手写心写也就行了。
                                                                          古来圣贤皆寂寞’管他文学史说三道四。
                                       
                                                                                               七十岁时,
                                                                          人到古稀。该不再计较的东西更多。
                                                                                            看淡事情更广。
                                                               年轻时争的你死我活的东西,现在只会淡然一笑。
                                                          中年时费尽心机格外计较的东西,如今看来已无关紧要。
                                                                                   一生多少事,‘都付笑谈中’。
                                                                                但是不是说明都可以不再计较了,
                                                                                     那也不是,这个岁数的老人,
                                                                                       我以为要有三样特别积极;
                                                                              健康的身体和谐的家庭,良好的名声。
                                                                    至于别的东西,也就算了吧,谁爱计较谁解决去。